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Poor Rihanna, she was beat and tossed by her boyfriend Chris Brown only to take him back. I didn’t blog about this until now because I was hoping it wasn’t true but unfortunately Rihanna and Brown have decided to reconcile.

An unfortunate part of this story is too many women can relate to this, myself included. Women who are abused by men, whether it be physical or emotional, often find it hard to leave the relationship. The abuse seems to form a strong tie between the two individuals involved - a very unhealthy tie. Women who find themselves in abusive relationships often feel as though they did something to bring about the abuse.

I unfortunately endured abuse and found it extremely difficult to leave the relationship. I thought I did something to cause it and wanted to fix it. The abuse also gave me the false belief that our love was strong and ‘passionate’, explaining away the abuse. Rihanna is young, not too much younger than I was when I was in my abusive relationship. Chris Brown is probably her first love and she wants to make it work.

Hopefully because she is a public figure, she will open her eyes and see just what this relationship can do to her if she stays. Once he hits her once, he will hit her again.